Guide three
Writing a Message
You do not need to be a poet. A good message is short, specific and sounds like you. Here is a simple way to write one in a few minutes.
The three-part message
- Open with their name and the moment: “Dear Meera, congratulations on your new job!”
- Add the heart: one real detail, memory or reason. “I remember you practising that interview in the car park.”
- Close with a wish, a blessing or a plan: “Lunch is on me next week.”
Words that help
| Instead of | Try |
|---|---|
| Best wishes for everything | Wishing you a calm first week and a kind manager |
| You are amazing | You always make time for everyone, even on busy days |
| Have a great day | Enjoy the cake, and do not let anyone else cut it |
| Thanks for everything | Thank you for picking me up from the station at midnight |
Mixing languages
Many families write in more than one language. A Hindi, Punjabi, Tamil or Bengali greeting at the start or end of an English message often feels warmest. Use the words the person uses at home, and check the spelling with someone who speaks it if you are unsure.
Handwritten, typed or voice?
- Handwritten cards suit weddings, milestone birthdays, elders and thank-you notes.
- Text messages suit friends, quick festival wishes and congratulations on the day.
- Voice notes suit grandparents and anyone far away who would love to hear your voice.
A quick checklist
- Have you used their name?
- Is there one detail only you could write?
- Would you be happy if it were read aloud to the family?
- Have you signed off the way you speak?